So in this exercise, we're going to talk about moving beyond your do goals. So let me explain that just a little bit. So if we have be goals, we have do goals, and we have action goals that are possible. Again, these be goals are reflective of our purpose in life. Our action goals are very crispy behaviors that create habits over time. But our do goals are kind of in this no man's land in between. And so many people start with their do goals. Their do goals might be, I want to be more physically active. Or I want to be more mindful, or I want to go on a diet or lose weight, for example, or I want more willpower. Those are okay, and it's fine to start with that. But the real question then afterwards is, where are you going to head from there? How are you going to actually enact those do goals? How are you going to enact do goals, such as I'm going to go on a diet? Well, what kind of diet, what kind of crispy behaviors can we start building habits around to help you with your diet? Or to become more physically active or mindful or have more willpower? So many of us end up kind of stopping with the do goals. And then we end up with less confidence, or what's called self-efficacy, because we don't really know how to do that. But maybe even more important, we don't go back to the be goals. Why do you want to be more mindful, why do you want to go on a diet? So some people who I ask about diet may say, I want to lose 15 pounds so I can get into a smaller dress size. And then I'll ask, well, why do you want to do that? They'll say, well, actually because I'd really like to find a partner now because I'm lonely. And a tear starts welling up in their eye. And then you know you're ready to start, because you have the be goal. I want to have a partner, that is a be goal. So I want to be connected with other people, I want to find a partnership and love. That is the beginning of your why, which will really start generating more motivation for a long-term run at that smaller dress size. So it's really important to think about your action goals, in other words, specific crispy behaviors. But at the same time work backwards and ask the why of these questions. So here's a little exercise, can you name a do goal that you have? I'm guessing that's not all that hard, to name a do goal. Because we all have various do goals we'd like to engage in. Many of us would like to drop a few pounds. A lot of us would like to become more physically active. A lot of us would like more willpower, I could go on and on. People have different do goals, but what kind of be goals are related to your do goals? So if you can think of a do goal or two, think about the why of those do goals. Just write those down, if you can, and at the same time, what is the how of your do goal? And by the way, if you have no idea how to actually enact that do goal. How are you going to become more purposeful, in other words. Maybe you want to go to Google and learn from there, that's totally fine. If you're using the Purposeful application, you can do it on Purposeful. So for example, if I want to become more mindful, that is a do goal. And I want to go back to the why, which would be my purpose. And at the same time, I want some crispy behaviors to engage in. So I'm going to get crispy behaviors by going into the Explore page of Purposeful. And picking out one of many, many dozens of different approaches to becoming more mindful that we have in Purposeful. So just to summarize this week, the aims of Week 2 were to discuss how purpose helps us organize our lives. Going back 500 years ago, our lives were organized by other entities. They were organized by our God, they were organized by our community, they were organized by our families. Everybody pretty much told us what to do, told us what our purposes were, and we had very little choice in this. Then existentialists in the mid-1800s started saying, wait a second, we're learning more. We're learning, first of all, we're not the center of the entire universe and that the world is very, very old. We're here for this brief period of time. We're pretty insignificant, probably, and with that insignificance, we either have a choice. We should just say, we're nothing, and get really sad about that. Or we create our own light, and in creating our own light, we have to figure out how to do that. And that's what the existentialists did. So they started talking about being a camel, how we would say, pile everything up on my shoulders. Pile the joys and the sorrows and the beauty and the ugliness of the world. I want to learn everything about the world, and that was super cool. Because then, once you became fully educated, you would become metaphorically a lion that could go out and say, you know what? I'm not listening to what other people tell me to do. I'm listening to myself, my inner Damon, my true self. And I'm going to build my own purpose, I'm going to create my own light. I'm going to tear up the resume my parents gave for me, or any other institution gave for me, and I'm going to create my own purpose. Then finally, we talked about how to link our behaviors to our purpose. In other words, we act in a lot of different ways. Ask yourself, why am I acting that way, what is the reason for that action? What's the reason for that action, working backwards to our why. And making sure that it's related to our purpose that we have in our life. Also, we talked about linking our purpose to our behavior. So in acting purposefully, we have to figure out, okay, how do we build a do goal from our be goals? And then finally, how do we build crispy habits, our action goals, from those do goals? And how do we align those things so that they're really nicely integrated. So we can engage in them every single day in a nice consistent way. So that we can handle multiple domains of purposes that we all have? We all have purpose conflict, so how do we end up being able to handle, to manage multiple purposes? And how not to get stuck in between, where we're just saying, well, I should lose some weight. Or I should have more willpower, or I wish that I could become more physically active. How do we work backwards to a why which will motivate us more? And at the same time, to the how, and really engage in this bigger life that we all can live?
