2.15 Initial Contact 3: Positive Reframing

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The Arts and Science of Relationships: Understanding Human Needs

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University of Toronto

The Arts and Science of Relationships: Understanding Human Needs

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This course provides an introduction to: 1. Basic concepts of The Strategies and Skills Learning and Development System (SSLD), their relevance for every day relationships and provide advanced concepts for participants who work in fields of social work and health care . 2. Basic practice principles and methods of SSLD, illustrated by relationship management case studies. 3. The SSLD framework for relationship management assessment; N3C (needs, circumstances, characteristics, capacity) and problem translation. 4. Core competencies in the relationship management application of the SSLD system: Observation learning, simulation, real life implementation, review and monitoring.

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Module 2 - Getting Started

SSLD conceptualization of relationship: Addressing participants’ needs as key condition of possibility. This module will discuss the social exchange theory, life-scripts, managing differences, and responsive assertiveness

2.13 Initial Contact 1: First Impression4:56

2.14 Initial Contact 2: Body Language1:38

2.15 Initial Contact 3: Positive Reframing3:17

2.16 Initial Contact 4: Summary3:37

Meet the Instructors

A. Ka Tat Tsang
Founder of the SSLD System; Professor and Factor-Inwentash Chair in Social Work in the Global Community
Factor-Inwentash Faculty of Social Work

So we've talked a lot about the importance of self-confidence.

And sort of not just focusing on your physical appearance, but

also your body language and how you present yourself to others.

And it's easy to say, it's important to be self-confident, but

how do you go from there to actually believe in your self-confidence?

Having the thinking process and

the cognitive recognitions to support that self-confidence?

>> Yeah, so just like you said, it's so

important to really have that belief in yourself.

Kind of a strategy that is used in

order to enhance this self-confidence is positive self statements.

For example, maybe I were to go out try to engage in

romantic interactions with someone, and I'm flat out rejected.

I can sit there and think to myself, I'm a loser,

I'm unattractive, all these things or I can reframe it and

literally think to myself: well, you know what?

I'm courageous and

I just went out there and I tried and I failed but I'm going to try again.

And maybe the outcome would go better for me next time and it's a really protective

way to feel good about yourself essentially and really believe it.

>> Yeah, I hear that and it's sort of that positive

reframing of taking the negative in the situation and turning it into a positive.

And I'm also thinking sort of, in some situations, when you're rejected.

So say for instance, your friend tells you that

a dress doesn't look good on you because you've put on some weight.

And before you can engage in that positive reframing, you're likely to experience so

many negative emotions, and just this negative affect.

Then you're going to be feeling upset and rejected.

And sort of how to go from that to the positive reframing?

>> Yeah, it's a good point because when something dramatic or

upsetting happens, it's hard for us to really think logically.

It's pretty important to take that time, right?

Validate how you're feeling and do what you need to do in order to feel better.

So I mean if that means having some Haagen-Dazs or going dancing or crying

in your room for a night That's kind of what you have to do.

Until you get to a more stable feeling and

you can start to think about doing that positive reframing.

>> And so it just sounds like taking the time to recognize that you're feeling

a negative emotion.

Sort of letting it run its course, but

then coming back to the situation and thinking, what happened?

And sort of putting a positive spin on the events.

>> Definitely.

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