And so you just mentioned something called happenings, can you just elaborate on what that is? >> A happening is something that is not usual. That is not routine, right? And something happens, right? So say for example, if you celebrate your birthday every year you go to the same bakery. You get the same like I don't know like chestnut or blueberry cake. And like you brew the same coffee. You invite the same people. That is a birthday party, but is not a happening, right? It is an event, right? A happening is like something that is not routine. It can be planned, it can be staged, but like it is something that is unusual, right? >> Yeah. So you do things slightly differently. Like a surprise party may be a happening. But if you have a surprise party every year [LAUGH] for your birthday then it. It doesn't like, it doesn't come across as a surprise anymore. And it's not a happening. So, and I know that I'm very biased here. Like I think happenings are great, right? But then of course there are people who do not want happenings. People who want things to be predictable. They want things to be routine, right? And so yeah, I understand that. Like, I'm a happening’s person. But like there are also people who really value, like doing things the same way. And I have some respect for that because one of the things that people are beginning to understand better is the role of rituals. And you know that certain rituals are basically the same sequence of events that had happened or they are performed over and over for hundreds of years or maybe over a thousand years, right?
>> right. People are practicing these traditional rituals, and it still carries a certain force. It also has an impact on people and makes people feel a sense of stability. And then the other thing, which we haven't really been talking too much about in this course, is the sense of community. Although we're talking about relationships. So, very often when people are negotiating a relationship, some people have deliberately chosen to follow a certain script, a certain pattern. Because by doing so, they feel that they are part of a community. So, one obvious example is when you talk about religious community. So like some people practice the same religious rituals, which may also condition and govern their intimacy behaviour. When they do that, they feel that they're part of the community and they both want that, and that would be fine.