Welcome to this talk. Do Chinese have romantic love? This is a very lovely topic. This is delivered by a very interesting person, that's myself. My name is Michelle Yik. [inaudible]. I've been here for 17 years. When I was invited to give a talk, up to my choice, my favorite topic, I decided to pick romantic love because I'm just not so romantic. So far, I married once. The character, the target person is my only boyfriend in my life. So am I romantic? Yeah, romantic. Am I not? But it doesn't matter. No matter it's romantic or not romantic, it doesn't stop me into preaching about this topic because I'm going to share with you what I read about it, what research have been done on that. In particular, I want to place the topic in the Chinese context. Before I start, as usual, in my classes I always start with some interesting exercises, like it or not. How many girls do we have here? Can you raise your hand? I'm very open, you might look like a girl but you are not a girl. That's UST. Okay. Can I have the girls?
Now would you please read this sentence? And you don't need to tell me now, give yourself a yes or no. If a man had all other qualities you desired, would you marry this man even when you were not in love with him? Yes or no? You've got an answer, right? Now, guys must be jealous. Here you go. For boys, this is a question you'll have to answer. If a woman had all other qualities you desired, would you marry this person even you were not in love with her? Yes or no? Did you get your answer? Yes? Hang on. Now, I need eight female volunteers, and eight male volunteers. Why eight? Because eight is a lucky number for Chinese. Alright. Very simple. Can I have volunteer number one? Girls? Did you give out a yes or no? Yes. Okay. Hang on. Volunteer number two girl. Yeah. No? Okay. Volunteer number three? [inaudible]. Okay. Speak louder than me please. Volunteer number four? No. Okay. Five? No. I love your voice, baby. Okay. Volunteer number six? Yes. Yes. Volunteer number seven. Yes. Very loud, lovely lady. Volunteer number eight. No. I don't have no more. Yes? No. Alright. So now, I need some guys. Okay. Volunteer number one. No. Who's talking? It's you, right? Yeah. What's your name? Jason. Jason. Lovely name. No. Okay.
Volunteer number two? Yes. Okay. Volunteer number three? No. Four? No. Five? No. Six? No. Seven? No. Eight? No. So we'll come back to this a bit later. Alright. So yes, no. What are you doing, Michelle? Well, of course it's something I want to play with you later on. Now, I'm going to distribute my handouts. So don't worry, you'll have your handout. Everyone will have a copy. All you need is a pencil or pen. Please pass to the back. Now, as soon as you get a copy of the handout, do not turn to page two. Do not turn to page two. Alright. I know. Stick to page one, please. Does everyone have a copy of the handout? I have extra copies. Do you need copies? They don't have a pencil? Don't give them any hours. You don't have any pencils? So what are you doing at school? You just use computers or use blood. Alright. What I need you to do is to go to this mini-survey, pre-lecture exercise two. Write down, without discussing with your friend even if he or she is your romantic partner, just write down the top three features of romantic love. Whatever that comes to your mind. I mean, it's not a test. Write down what you have on your mind when you have this question. List three most important features of romantic love. Alright. So I'm not going to collect your survey. I'm not going to collect your handout, you can write anything crazy or sexy. Jason, what's up? Are you guys done? If you are done, put down your pen, then I know you are done. Is that really that hard? Yeah. That's why you need to come to this class or talk. Hey, come on. You are not marrying someone, so just put down three features because I want to share with you a joke. I still remember that a few years ago, I was doing a similar talk on romantic love and people did a survey, an online survey. I don't know who they were, they don't know who I was, et cetera. But at the end, I got the responses from some people. Actually, what they put down was sex, sex, sex. Now, I'm not encouraging that. Maybe to them, romantic love after all is. Well Michelle, you asked for three features. I give you three. Three S's. Now, let's share with us some of your choices. Just tell me the first one. Alright? Do I have volunteer number one? What did you put down other than sex? What did you put down? Acceptance. Acceptance. Okay. Number two? Love. Love. Now, hurry, hurry. Drama. Draw? Drama. What is it? Drama. Really? Is it really that dramatic? I've never heard of it. Okay. Surprise me, guys or girls. Yes. Promise. Promise. So romantic. Yes. Passion. Alright. Five more guys. Non-logic . Not. Okay. Yeah. Love is love, right. Okay. Yes. Trust. Trust. Yes. Respect. Thank you very much. Commitment. Yes, the last one. Your chance. Smile. Smile. Smile. Lovely. Okay. We'll come back to all these answers. I'll run after you for this.
