1.10. Зеркало правды. Как себе не соврать?

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Основы поиска дела жизни. Часть 1. Как перестать откладывать дела на потом?

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National Research Nuclear University MEPhI

Основы поиска дела жизни. Часть 1. Как перестать откладывать дела на потом?

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Конфуций говорил «Найди себе дело по душе, и тебе не придется работать ни дня в своей жизни». АНЕКДОТ: — Доктор, я буду жить? — А смысл?! Мы искренне верим, что Вас этот анекдот не касается. – Вы обожаете свою работу и просыпаетесь рано утром с горящими глазами? – Вы готовы до конца своих дней заниматься выбранным сейчас делом? – Встретив неудачу на выбранном пути, Вы засучиваете рукава и она подстегивает Вас к более эффективной работе? – Жизнь Ваша наполнена смыслом, и Вы несете пользу людям? Если это не совсем так, делаете ли Вы что-то, чтобы это изменить? Или планируете еще потерпеть? Если Вам надоело стоять на месте и хочется изменить свою жизнь к лучшему, то, возможно Вам стоит посетить психотерапевта или отправиться в Тибет. А еще можно пройти наш курс, в котором мы не обещаем волшебной таблетки, но обещаем отобранные инструменты для решения топ-3 популярных проблем, которые останавливают людей на пути самореализации. КАК БЫЛ ОСНОВАН ЭТОТ КУРС? Автор курса — Павел Кочкин — за Вас отучился в Гарварде, съездил в Тибет, изучил основы мотивации и позитивной психологии на факультете МГУ и помог найти предназначение тысячам людей по всему миру. Проделав большую работу, основатели образовательного проекта «Предназначение» сильно продвинулись в методологии поиска дела жизни. МЕТОД ПРОСТ КАК РАЗ, ДВА, ТРИ: 1. Пройти техосмотр и отжать тормоза (фундамент для развития) 2. Выбрать, куда ехать (получить гипотезы) 3. Удержаться на пути (выбрать и воплотить в жизнь главную гипотезу) Вы находитесь на курсе №1 серии курсов «Основы поиска дела жизни». Первый курс «Как перестать откладывать дела на потом?» научит Вас бороться с прокрастинацией. Мы давно работаем над процессом самоопределения и обнаружили, что есть три «тормоза», которые не позволяют нам двигаться в направлении дела нашей жизни. Мы дадим понимание этих «ям» и научим их прорабатывать. По итогам прохождения этого курса вы получите базовые основы развития. НА СЛЕДУЮЩИХ КУРСАХ ВЫ: – Получите хорошо выверенные гипотезы вашего будущего развития – Будете обладать инструментами для отсеивания лишних гипотез и воплощения в жизнь главной гипотезы Утром вас сорвет с кровати, чтобы заниматься тем, чем хотите! Интересно? Нажимайте на кнопку «Записаться на курс»!

From the lesson

О курсе

Начнем с рассказа о серии курсов "Предназначение. Найди дело жизни", о том, что Вас ждет в первом курсе "Как перестать откладывать дела на потом" и как его проходить. Также Вы выполните несколько заданий и ответите себе на вопрос: нужен ли Вам этот курс?

1.1. Промо ролик курса2:42

Рекомендации по прохождению курса3:01

1.2. Тест "Насколько я на своем месте?"6:15

1.3. Зачем я пришел на этот курс?7:43

1.4. 4 этапа поиска себя7:32

1.5. С чего начать?9:48

1.6. Формат обучения. Как проходить курс?5:15

1.7. Давайте знакомиться!1:42

1.8. Практика "Аватар"10:46

1.9. Входная анкета самодиагноз "Кто я и чего хочу?", версия 1.04:43

1.10. Зеркало правды. Как себе не соврать?7:58

Meet the Instructors

Кочкин Павел
Кандидат наук
Институт интеллектуальных кибернетических систем

Mirror of truth. How not to lie to yourself

The next exercise, my friends,

may become a wake-up call for you.

I am so afraid of doing it every time.

Anyone I suggested doing this exercise was like:

"Oh, yes, it's like ... well, ok, I see, actually, yes,

I ... ok, yes. It's simple, understandable, so... Phew ...".

You know, it comes somehow

naturally that you don’t want to do it.

It is just so primitive that

it becomes clear immediately that

you are very reluctant to do it.

So, as I said, this technique is very simple,

and, believe me, one of the most brilliant,

sobering and eye-opening.

It clearly shows who I am, what I am,

and it is perfectly brilliant in its simplicity.

You have an A4 sheet of paper in front of you,

and this is the only tool,

except for a pencil,

which you are going to need in your work.

Nothing else.

Every day you print out such a sheet

and carry it folded in the back pocket of your jeans,

along with an IKEA pencil

to make notes with during the day.

That's it, this is the exercise.

It will take you 15 minutes per day,

it is a 15-minute investment during the day,

but you will make notes every time

there is a change in activity.

I have heard a lot of enthusiastic reviews

about this practice.

It is far from being new,

it’s a "snapshot of the day",

an old classical technique.

Any consulting company issues invoices in this way,

and an auditor working there, or one of the consultants,

records their every action.

Well, what does it look like?

You fix your working day with phrases like:

"I made a presentation," "I drew",

"I answered e-mails", "I made a phone call",

and they do it by means of a computer.

For example, my wife, working in her company,

had special software,

and recorded every change in her activity.

And her work was fixed,

it was clear what it consisted of:

how long she drinks coffee, how long

she talks on the phone,

how long she deals with e-mails,

how long she talks with colleagues at a meeting, and so on.

Thus to understand what your working day consists of,

we divide it into different activities.

Your private life should be included too.

Let it be a secret document,

don’t show it to anyone,

but fill it in honestly.

This is what makes it valuable.

At the initial stage,

I forbid you any analysis, any changes or cheating.

And, please, don’t be ashamed of yourself

discovering that you have 2 hours of watching Youtube videos,

which is completely impossible to justify,

plus 6 hours of surfing social networks,

plus picking your nose for another half an hour,

or scratching your head for 40 minutes,

or spending 6 hours on getting to a place.

This all is so weird. Look at this.

I made a lot of discoveries when I did this practice.

For example, I found out that I get up very late,

and it was difficult for me

to write down that I get up at 2 p.m.

Then I discovered that I have 15 minutes of exercise,

15 minutes of shower, 15 minutes of breakfast,

and 45 minutes of drinking tea afterwards.

I looked at it and I thought: "Hmm. Curious".

Then a very long way to work,

then I come to work — and, not at once,

as it turns out, but start working.

And I, for example, spent an hour to get to my office,

plus another 45 minutes on coffee,

then another half an hour on working,

meaning, talking to colleagues:

what’s up, what’s new.

Oh, it doesn’t look so good ...

well, you know,

somehow you do not want to fill in the timesheet

the way it is.

It's better to write: "work starts", 09:00

and “work finishes” 18:00 —

that's my timesheet, I started at 09:00,

finished at 18:00. Work — that's my schedule.

No, this practice is valuable because

you change an activity every 15 minutes.

I will explain.

What does "change in activity every 15 minutes" mean?

The whole day will be divided into time slices

of 15 minutes each.

Imagine, you came to work and sat down

to write an email to your client,

and while you were actually writing it for 15 minutes,

another client called.

This means you mark a change in activity

with another type of activity — a “phone call”.

So, I wrote an email for 15 minutes,

I talked on the phone for another 15 minutes,

or 5 minutes, the rest of the time

I was finishing the email — 45 minutes.

Of course, you can allocate 45 minutes,

half an hour, an hour for one and the same

activity that — attention — was not interrupted.

For example, sleeping.

You went to bed at 2 a.m.

and woke up at 8 a.m., so from 2 to 8,

please combine it into one line called "sleeping".

But do not combine the time from 9 to 18 into "working",

and do not combine 11-13 into "having lunch".

What did you do during lunch?

How much time did you actually eat?

Supposedly, most of the time was spent on getting there,

you had some phone calls,

a conversation with a friend,

you read a book, and so on.

So, please, fix these changes in the timesheet.

This is very sobering, very exciting.

And I assure you, it's enough just to do this exercise,

without any analysis, just to observe,

watch yourself, as if in a mirror.

To finally see and admit

who I actually am, what I actually am.

Just look at yourself.

I assure you, doing this technique,

this pencil and this sheet with all the notes,

focusing on the very change of activities

will provide a great number of insights.

Please practice it.

This is the basis of this course

and this is the only thing that we have —

this very limited resource called "time".

Many of us live in such a way,

as if we are immortal, as if we will live forever.

But these sheets, they are limited.

And only these sheets, these 15-minute intervals

we are investing, they show how much it is left for us.

The amount of smile on your face,

the amount of energy that you give to this world,

they are embodied in these 15-minute intervals.

Look at what your life consists of.

Enjoy the practice.

Discard thoughts like:

"If I am to record every change every 15 minutes,

when will I be actually working?".

Work, please, half an hour, hour,

do not get distracted, avoid changes in your activity.

Make one note at the beginning

and one note at the end.

Then, what you did before

and what you will do afterwards.

So now — a sheet of paper and a pencil.

Drain the energy from self-observation,

take this power of self-awareness.

There are only 2 very powerful esoteric skills:

the first one is awareness,

the second one is will.

It means knowing where I want to go,

the address, and then — following this direction,

keeping the task in view.

So, thanks to this technique,

your self-awareness shoots up into space,

this is an effective injection of awareness into your life.

Embrace this awareness

and the pleasure of knowing who you are,

where you are going.

This is the first step.

Good luck!

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