Next we are going to talk about eye contact. Eye contact is super important, especially when you doing a speech. I mean, as a speaker, when you are faced with a crowd of people, I mean, you need to rest your eyes on some person, or somewhere, except that you are doing this lecture, you know, through a video then you need to focus and look at the camera, well, most of us may do not like that, but you have to do this. And then, in a real, well, you are really delivering an onsite speech, and then you definitely need eye contact. And my suggestion is that in the beginning of your speech, you definitely need to find out some person who looks more, you know, pleasing to your eyes, they could be always keeping a smile on their face, and they look very nice and kind to you, and then you’ll find out later on you were doing this as a speech, subconsciously, you’ll rest your eyes on these guys. You know, this wil make you more confident, because he is sending out positive message to you and it’s really a good hint. It will be very stupid if you really focus on some guy who were playing the cellphone, you’ll feel, you know, displeased, and there will be some guy who are naturally born with a bitter face, you know, unsatisfied with anything in this world. And if you do that, you’ll fooling yourself. So this is super important in the very beginning find guys you want you rest your eyes on. And it’s also important, when you are delivering a speech, you know, through eye contact, you may find out whether your audience is listening to you attentively, or they are kind of in a hurry, or they want to grab for a lunch, or you are talking so boring that they want to escape, whatever. But through this eye contact, you get instant feedback so you can adjust your pace, or your content, or your way to talk. It is also important that when you are doing this eye contact with your audience, you are actually silently communicating your feelings to others. I am going to do a set example. Now, like, you can really, really read something through my eyes. So in the beginning, I want you audience here in this class to feel and to get a hint what is my feelings. Like, what message you can get from my eyes? Inside my heart, I am saying this word: “Come on, you can do it better. You can do it better. Yes, I am encouraging you, I am giving you power, positive message. You can do it. Yes, you can do it.” But say, if I say you can do it but “You can do it, you can do it.” You don’t believe it. You really don’t believe it, right? Now I am going to do this in front of the camera, I want to deliver a message that I really, really love you guys. I enjoying sharing my experiences, my knowledge with you, and I hope you can enjoy my class. But even I don’t speak like this, you can feel it. That’s magical. Yes, so again, let’s go back to the previous one, the principle that we’ve been talking, Mehrabian rule. The 55% of your impact is from non-verbal means, and 38% from the tone of your voice, and only 7% in words.
